19. Happiness may be at hand, it's not that difficult

 You want to be happy and make others be happy too, perhaps your family? 

I’ve lately read and thought a bit more on happiness, and now I’m trying to give you some tips that might hopefully help you. 

The first premise, and according to Spanish psychiatrist Marian Rojas Estapé, happiness doesn’t depend on what occurs to you, but the perception you have about what happens to you. 

If you try and have a positive view of what occurs in your life, well then you may start to move on happiness road. 

Happiness is not what happens to me, but how I interpret those things that happen to me. That’s on page 115 in her book Cómo hacer que te pasen cosas buenas (2018, and there’re quite many editions of that bestseller). It’s up to you. You decide between being happy or … not, and I presume you want to. 

I know some people who are just positive about their lives. And those same people might have chosen to interpret life things in a negative and pessimistic way. You decide. It’s up to you. 

And that aforementioned doctor is not blind about the fact that anyone can have problems, setbacks, diseases, work problems, family ones, etcetera. 

Your reality depends upon how you perceive it, as she puts. 

And many small happy things happen on anyone’s life: let’s learn how to enjoy them! Tiny and wee things, good ones. 

After you have trained to act and think in that way, you will develop like a second and positive view or nature. Happiness – she says – is not an addition of pleasures and joys and emotions: happiness is much more: it also depends upon how you have overcome hard and tough things in your life. 

So as to finish, just in a short way: also remember what I said on previous posts: also happiness ensues your trying to live the project or vocation God has thought of for you. And you need to love someone and your family, friends, colleagues, neighbors, and you need to feel loved by them (or some of them). Have a nice day.

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